It's as simple as this: Men go for looks. Women go for men with money. That's what we chatted about on the show this morning and our phone lines exploded with opinions. I had come across this interesting article that discussed what people really look for when trying to find The One. And the article said it comes down to this: Men look for a good-looking lady. And us ladies, we go for a man who can provide. As Rod Tidwell famously shouted, "SHOW ME THE MONEY!"
I know what's going through your mind. '''Not me! I'd never be that shallow.'''
Really? Okay. But I'm not buying that.
Men, you've never ogled any particular supermodels? I bet you did, and you sure weren't fantasizing about the size of her....brain. Oh, you were? My bad. I'm sure your thoughts quickly drifted to all the wild, sweaty nights of passionately discussing world peace ALL. NIGHT. LONG.
And ladies, if you had a choice between Gentleman A (who has a job- whatever that may be, owns something- a car, a home, a cat, or quite frankly manages to pay his rent on time) and Gentleman B (who doesn't want a job right now because that would interrupt his video game time...oh, and he still lives in his parent's basement), please decide.
Right now. A or B?
Don't over-think it. They both may be great people. That's not the question.
The question is really about ambition. Do you want the guy who coasts along or the one who wants to pave his way through the world?
Still not convinced? Fast forward 10 years. Do you want the guy still sitting in the basement (this time it's yours), in his undies, STILL playing his video games and STILL not working? And there you are: running the kids to practice, picking up the groceries and making dinner, then driving back to the office because your co-worker can't find your report and they're meeting with a huge client in a half hour. Your husband could help you out, but he's really close to beating Level 14 and he's been trying to reach that goal all week.
Ambition. Which leads to money. Which leads to stability and security.
That's not being a gold-digger. It's being able to look toward your future and say: What do I really want?
I know what I want. And that's Channing Tatum. But he's taken. So if I can't have him, I want someone who's going to have my back, share the burden of life, and be there through good times and bad.
Mr. Video Gamer might be a sweet guy. But that's not going to keep the lights on. And I like to read, especially at night. And quite frankly, I'd prefer not to do that by candlelight.